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What do you think she should do, get a GED or stay in school.?

Let me start off with the details. My fiance is 16 and pregnant as a freshman in Highschool. The issue is if she should stay in school or not. I am 18, a dropout and I do work. I am getting my GED asap for a better job. I've compiled a list of positives that would help with getting a GED now and getting a full time job. Moving in together and getting married = Support, lower childcare cost, lower health insurance cost, lower car insurance cost, lower gas cost, more money, lower health insurance for the baby, lower cost for the baby, lower rent, lower food cost. Now when I say lower gas prices or rent, I mean that with two incomes. The situation now, if I don't move in and get married. I have to pay for childcare cost on my own. I have to pay for child health insurance on my own. I have to pay gas on my own. I have to pay for a place to live on my own and the baby. I have to pay for car insurance on my own. I have to pay for food on my own. I cant get help from uncle sam. I know she would not get a full education but I cannot provide an income for me and the child on my own. I think life would be a little easier if she was able to get a full time job and make some money. Now this is all beggining next year after this school year. She is having the baby in the summer. If she drops out now her insurance is canceled and the maternity insurance will not be covered. I have to pay health insurance when the baby is born because the baby is not covered under her fathers insurance. As the education goes. I would not allow her to dropout without getting her GED. That is a priority if she does. Can people give me the negatives is the question and does my idea sound reasonable? argh I mean at the end of this school year not the begginning of the next year. Sorry "you should have thought about that before having sex," What do I look like to you a 13 year old? I do use I alot but that is too symbolize that I would have to do everything financial on my own. Instead of we you know? We were already engaged before this happened. Yes you can get engaged young. 50% of marriages end in divorce what does age matter in this day and age. It's deffintly "Not" the popular thing to do. The situation popped up and we do love each other very much. I can't wait for my life to start with her. I am very much excited. We really are trying to find other options though. P.S. adoption and abortion is 110% out of the question. Even if it is easier without the baby. I am not that type of man.

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1. Apart from getting a 16 year old pregnant you sound like you've thought this through. My personal opinion is that maybe you need to move in together at one of your parents homes. Still pay rent and bills and everything as if you were renting. This would allow some help with the baby and take the financial strain off you both. You both need to get your GED, however you also need to support this child and that has to be you number 1 priority. Can you both work a certain number of hours each week and do your studies by night or correspondence? It would take you longer but it would be the responsible thing to do. Plus the experience you have from working will help you get a job over other new GED graduates when the time comes. Good luck
2. Why do people insist on having babies when they are CLEARLY not ready for the responsibility? Your "fiancee" is 16 for God's sake!! She should not be having to choose between having a baby or staying in school. Her main focus SHOULD be school right now. What are you doing gettting a 16 year old girl pregnant anyway? Ridiculous. If she were to drop out what kind of "full time" job do you honestly think she could get? If she were able to get one the pay would not be the greatest. Do you realize how much a baby can cost? Are you living on your own already? If not, do you realize how much rent and utilities can cost each month?? Really now.... shouldn't you have thought about all of this BEFORE having sex? It is kind of a big deal. Getting married to your teenage girlfriend isn't going to solve all your problems either.
3. I definately agree that you need some support from other family members at least until you get on your feet and she finishes school. The bills would be cheaper and this would cause somewhat less stress on you. Also, she could get some parenting assistance. I feel strongly that she needs to stay in school and get an education. Remember you are bringing a new life into the world and one day this child will look up to yall. You need to set a good example. GED is not a wise option because the majority of jobs require at least a high school diploma. Another option would be for her to home school. That way she can still be with the baby as it grows up and still recieve her diploma. You just have to pay the costs of the homeschool each month. The majority of them are about $40 a month on a payment plan or you can pay in full. Remember that life is not always going to be easy. You may have to make sacrifices now to do better later. My advice would be live with family while she attends public school or get her to homeschool with or without living with family. Being on your own may not be the best bet in the very beginning but maybe a year later or so. You can search home schools online one is www.pennfoster.edu. A good idea would be for her electives to be those that focus on child rearing. Hope my advice helped and I wish you the best.
4. Just for the record, getting a GED is not as easy as some would think. I got my diploma went to college and was helping my sister get her GED, and there were many areas where I thought, "Hmmmm." I'm glad I stayed in school. Also, I know that employers will hold a high school diploma higher than a GED. This is the real question. Do you love and care for the soon to be mother of your child? Obviously, you have a physical attraction. I noticed in your second paragraph that every sentence began with the word "I". It is not just about you. It is a terrible idea to get married just because it would be cheaper. There are three lives here we're talking about and your baby deserves to have two parents who love and respect each other as well as caring for his/her physical and emotional needs. Is adoption a consideration? She is really young and in my opinion should stay in school. She will regret it later. Plus, once the baby comes, it will be more difficult to study for the GED. Especially if you think she will be working full time to help with the finances. If she stays in school, most districts have special programs for pregnant students. There are also state programs to help her with health insurance so long as her parents don't make too much. Where are your parents in this picture? Are they willing to help. If you have supportive parents, you can get married and she can finish school. Maybe you can even finish school and work in the evenings. There is definately more financial aid if you are married and have a child, but only get married if you love and respect this girl and plan to be with her for the long haul. Trust me.... it won't be easy!
5. You know what? It sounds as if you are really thinking this through. That's a good sign. If you could live with either parents, I think it would make it more financially stable for you. You both need your GEDs. If possible she should try to stay in school if your parents or you could be home during the day to watch the baby. Dude, it's not going to be easy and it takes a whole bunch of work. You will have stressors like never before. I'm not saying this to discourage you, but you'll have to mature very quick. Being a parent is great. So strap on your seat belt and get ready for the ride